Rejection: The Almost Unbearable Pain

Rejection hurts.

Understanding Self-Doubt

Self-doubt can feel overwhelming. We often think, "Am I enough?" or "Am I too much?" These thoughts can lead to feelings of rejection. It’s painful when others decide we’re not what they want. I’ve experienced this too.

I’ve felt rejected throughout my life. First, it was my mother, who struggled with multiple mental illnesses. Then, it was family members, men I was interested in, and even close friends. Each rejection chipped away at my self-esteem.

When we feel rejected, we spiral downwards. We start questioning ourselves. Our self-worth shatters. We wonder if we’re not enough or if we’re too much. Rejection and self-doubt create an almost unbearable pain. It’s a universal experience.

The Impact of Others' Opinions

What makes others decide we aren’t enough? Why do we let their opinions matter so much? Everyone has their own struggles. Sometimes, people reject us because they don’t feel good enough themselves. Our growth can challenge their self-esteem.

We can never truly know what others think or feel. And here’s the truth: it doesn’t matter!

IT DOES NOT MATTER!!!

Some people will never see us as enough, or they may see us as too much. They have their own problems to deal with. Trust me, as someone who has graduated from a trauma healer program, I’ve seen the unhealed pain in those around us. They may not talk about it, but many carry deep wounds.

Behind many smiles, there are hurting people. They can barely handle their own pain, let alone deal with anything that might trigger their insecurities.

Focusing on Self-Love

What truly matters is how we see ourselves. The path to joy, peace, and contentment isn’t about money. It’s about self-love—not the narcissistic kind, but genuine self-acceptance.

We all have shadows and challenges. We have flaws because we’re human. Life would be dull if we were all perfect, wouldn’t it? So, stop beating yourself up for things you’ve said, done, or thought. You are a beautiful, flawed human being, perfect in your imperfection.

Stop trying to be perfect. It’s just TORTURE! That’s right. TORTURING!

As I write this, I’m sending out healing love and light to you. If you’re open to it, I hope you’ll embrace healing and growth.

Affirmations for Healing

Right now, I invite you to say this with me:

“I am beautiful inside and out. I will work on my flaws. I will not hurt others. I will accept and love myself as a being of light. I will forgive myself and others and walk in love.”

This is the best we can do, and it’s more than enough. This is how we can overcome self-doubt for good.

Embracing Our Journey

Life is a journey filled with ups and downs. Each experience shapes who we are. Embracing our flaws and celebrating our strengths is essential.

When we acknowledge our challenges, we can begin to heal. It’s okay to seek help and support. Remember, you are not alone in this journey.

Let’s commit to lifting each other up. Together, we can create a community of love and acceptance.

Conclusion

In the end, rejection is a part of life. It doesn’t define us. Instead, it can be a catalyst for growth. Embrace who you are, flaws and all.

You are worthy of love and acceptance. Let’s rise together, leaving self-doubt behind.

Deborah Ann Minke, M.A., B.Ed., OCT, CH-C

Energize and Rise LLC

https://www.energizeandrise.com

(I write my own blogs :)